I was going to make the same point about Viet Kieus in the UK. Those I know who have fully embraced British culture understand that abject shows of wealth is generally considered to be rather vulgar. The rest see flamboyant shows of wealth to be proof of their supposed success. The Vietnamese that enjoy showing off their wealth are generally the ones who have it. Staying at a 5* resort on my recent trip to VN really showed how brash and vulgar the Vietnamese really can be. The only comparison I can make is how newly wealthy Russians used to be.
HSSS - That is a great quote. Thanks....called last night and we had a great conversation. Like I said earlier I have not wanted a relationship in the past 3 years. Kinda feels like 20 again. Golf - Great insight. I have worried about the "materialistic" issues as I have read about that alot. She always offers to pay for dinner and even said..."she would not go out with me again if I always pay"...did not know how to take it but I keep paying anyway. She can pay if we go to McDonalds I told her :) She does drive an older Mercedes as that seems to be the car of choice of local VN here. I saw pictures of her trip to VN and it seems she lives on the higher end of things there. All her family own some type of business and she went to a orphanage and donated alot of items from what I see. I guess that part of helping others made me more attracted to her. She does not ask for anything except I come and get a pedi from her...seems wierd having her service my feet when I like her. Cooking dinner for her Friday. I will tell her I like her then.
There are 2 very distinctive type of Viet Kieus. Those that have fully integrated into American society and those that have not. The have not seems to more on the materialistic side. When they go back to VN, they want to show off their wealth. Its like, "YEAH, I've made it" The fully integrated ones aren't aware that they need to show off their wealth when they travel back to VN. When some of my family members came back to VN for my wedding, one of them was my pharmacist sister and her doctor husband. When I made my wife aware of this, she was kinda shocked that they look nothing like they suppose to look. She's used to the Viet Kieus who has to show off their materialistic side when they go back to VN.
@Dixie, I got the "you fat" comment too when I had Vietnamese customers. It's like, "Oh yeah, you want good deal? Well, let me just add some more fees....". Just kidding..... @New, It's when you're not looking, when you fall. @BBB, I'm sure that's your reality, but it's not mine. My haircut? "Twel dolla", fingernails and toenails self-maintained, handbags were purchased from the craft villages for "fi dolla", and the satisfaction of knowing that I'm multiplying my investments, priceless.
Did I see somebody state that "The Vietnamese are not overtly materialistic"? Even the most blinkered individual surely cannot actually believe this. The Vietnamese and Viet Kieu in particular are some of the most ostentatious individuals I have ever met. Obviously these high levels of materialism are tied in with the ever present factor in Vietnamese life, the concept of face.