My brother, just because she has lived in America for 8 years doesn't mean her customs are American. I've dated a lot of Vietnamese women and I live half the time in vietnam and the other half in the states. It depends how traditional she is and where she's from. Women from th poorer provinces typically send much of their money home to buy property and transportation for their family's. Keep in mind outside of major city's most family's of 8 have 3 people working and they make between 3 and 8 million vnd a month. That's between 150 and 400 American dollars. Or there abouts. So when someone makes 2000 American dollars a month that's close to 40 million vnd... They send a lot home. The Vietnamese don't value going out, they are not opulent, or overt materialistic. They take care of their family's and live in very small apts in the states usually with other people. Personally I'd advise getting to know her better. Find out where she's from. Learn a little tieng viet, and like the gentleman above say, be direct. :)
My questions are based around the following job post for a teaching position at a K-12 private school: "In addition to a very competitive salary" What would a competitive salary generally be?, "they provide a monthly housing stipend" How much of the housing cost does this stipend generally cover?, "a relocation allowance" Is this for shipping costs from home country or a settling in allowance?, "They provide assistance in relocation and arrival so rest assured you would be in good hands." Does this generally mean they've found housing or they just point you in the 'right direction'?